A flick’r

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Life goes by in …
©2013 elizabeth darby

“Life goes by in a flick’r…

A flick’r.”

The older man, my host, sat in his kitchen, slightly hunched from his illness, but his bright blue eyes full of energy and wisdom as we visited.

“It was fast enough before I got the ________ but now…” He shook his head meaningfully.

“Life goes by in a flicker. There’s not time for loggerheads.

No time for loggerheads. . . .”

I sipped the lovely sweet coffee and homemade tea cake his delightful wife offered. And I listened intently to his and her lovely, lilting accent and way with words and phrases in this Welsh border-village.

I learned many things in my week in Wales, in not necessarily in this order:

1) I look forward to returning soon;

2) My tendency to repeat myself when using story to offer lessons is clearly due to my Welsh great-grandmother’s ‘Way’ of Story, which I learned from her daughter (my grandmother) with whom I spent every day of my life till her death in 1980. Those I spoke with in Wales like to repeat the important parts of the Story they tell a visitor. It’s the important stuff they repeat.

3) Life goes by in a flick’r.

So, in flipping through my book today and preparing for a second edition, wondering what to keep and what to leave behind, what helped my reader and what doesn’t, I came across this question below.

I pose it to you, now, for you know, ‘Life goes by in a flick’r’ . . . and living On Task and On Purpose requires we live with full heart, full passion, and full love shining forth every moment possible. Nothing held back; no loggerheads inside as well as out.

The Questions:

What I really care about is:

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How do I show this now, in this moment?

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If I don’t presently, how could I?

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How do I want to show or demonstrate this in the future?

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That last question is a hint about your Work here.

And now.

Demonstrate who you are and Who You Are.

Do it now, for you know . . .

“Life goes by in a flick’r. There’s not time for loggerheads.”

Blessings on your day!

Elizabeth Darby

Be Totally Honest With Yourself . . .

“Be totally honest with yourself: What makes you happy — do that.

And be prepared for it to take a little bit of time. . . .

  . . . Get a good foundation, learn all you can …

I became an expert in me when I started out in life, and I had seven potential journeys

in front of me to choose from that I mapped out on a spreadsheet.  

I thought I was motivated by doing a good job for others.

But after a few months of trying this, I realized I was motivated by being happy,

and that I’m happy when I’m doing a good job, and bringing happiness to others.

People would look at me and say, ‘Look at all the money you made . . .’.

They didn’t know about all the deals that didn’t happen…. 

When I started out, after looking at all the options, I burned the ships, like the explorers did —

I said this was it, and I was going to make this work.

And I was very lucky. . . .”

The man speaking is older, gray in the hair that is left, spending a bit of his Life-Time in a cafe to mentor a 30-something in her decision whether to use her time, skills and talent at … Real Estate.

Maybe it’s not a likely first-idea of a perfectly “spiritual” career, and the question wasn’t whether Real Estate was the reason she or even he is on this earth, spending Life-Time On Task and On Purpose. He could have been offering his wisdom on any journey she asked about, for obviously his advice is about how to live life, not necessarily what to do with it.  Especially when he returned to advising her to, above all else, be happy in her living and in her choice of how to spend her Life-Time.

His advice is sage and learned in the day-to-day moments of his Life-time here. As he walks out in what appear to be simple khakis, simple white shirt and Orvis straw hat, and then doffing a beautiful sport jacket in a cut of cloth that emanates quality and worth, he reminds her to get her ticket validated to save the parking fee… as she’s ‘a nice person, after all’ so why waste a dime?

This is what it’s all about, isn’t it?

Choosing to work at stirring happiness into a job well-done, rather than focus on just the ‘results’. Choosing to learn about You, to seek to know what is the best of you and to apply it to your journey(s) ahead. To choose whatever role to play that makes you happy and tugs at you to do your best each moment.

In a multiple role life, as we each live every moment of life, this is the Way, I feel. We must get out of our own way to let a bright light shine fully from within, as we each —yes even you — are here to do. Whether the role of this moment in your life is care-giver, seeker, provider, creator, assistant, hand-holder, or ace deal-maker or lonely-in-the-night guardian, it’s your journey using your Life-Time.

So, as the wise man says:

Be totally honest with yourself  . . .  

 

What makes you happy — do that.

 

 And be prepared for it to take a little bit of time.

Here You Begin: On Task and On Purpose. Right . . . Now.

And Right . . . Now. . . . 

And Right . . . Now.

It’s always a Begin Here moment in which to shine. And it’s going to take a little time for that shine to become a natural habit.

But when it does, oh my is it beautiful and successful. 

For who can resist someone who is happy in what they do with their time, every moment?

Blessings on your day!

Elizabeth Darby