Committed to Becoming

“Whatever else happiness may be, it is in neither having nor being, but in becoming…”

John Ciardi

 

 

So how are your New Year’s resolutions coming? Have you yet re-solved to have more resolve, as the root of these states of being is ‘to loose and to let free’ a way or a something; it’s a way of detaching and washing away.

 

I’ve been thinking about the difference between a promise – to others or to self – versus a commitment.

 

Which would you rather have, whether from self or from others, in this Life-time moment of your journey? A commitment or a promise?

 

Both promise and commitment come from the same Latin root as well: mittere,   which is first ‘a mission’, a sending or dispatching on a highly important journey often of a sacred sort.

 

So far, a promise or a commitment, both sound pretty good.

 

Our life-journeys, becoming a shining Best of who we each are, on task and on purpose, are a highly important and yes, even sacred journey. That we call it our life, or life-time, is just a reminder that the clock is ticking on this, our journey, whether we plunge into it with joy, commitment, promise, resolve or hesitance.

 

But for some reason, I’ve been feeling like all the ink on ‘promises’ is usually followed with a sense of ‘in the future’… as in I promise to … whether it’s ‘to have and to hold’ for an indeterminate time, or a promise to stop doing something destructive,  or a promise to accomplish something, it feels like we are setting our promise in the future.

 

 And yes, I know many also speak of God’s promise, and know it is not just now but for all time, so that’s set into the eternal now and future as well. But I’m not in the business of doubting God or that particular promise; some mysteries are best left mysterious as to ‘when and where’, so I’ve found. Time is relative at the God-level of Creation, I’ve come to learn.

 

A promise is a mission with a ‘pro’ in front of it — the old Latin root, pro as in ‘forward’.  No wonder when we make promises to ourselves or others, we have a sense of it being a future event, whether it’s starting from now on or, well, maybe, tomorrow. 

 

Check your New Year’s resolutions – did they start with a promise of when they would start, or with a setting free of last year’s hangover via resolution?

 

Commitment. It’s a sturdy word. It feels solid when you commit to yourself to do something, or when someone else commits to you and vice-versa. A commitment  feels like it’s already accomplished in some energetic way, as in ‘I commit to this work’ and ‘I commit to living fearlessly and on task and on purpose.’ Doing so feels already accomplished and is indeed already underway as soon as the sentence is over, with no …  after it.

 

Indeed commitment is a mission with a ‘com’, as in ‘sent with’; it’s to undertake together, and to be entrusted to take a risk with someone or something. It is telling self and others you are trust-worthy; your mission, should you decide to accept it,  whether of your work or your purpose is already undertaken.

Now back to happiness … which one feels when committed. Are you committed to making your life journey, on task and on purpose, as happy — as Yes — as might be possible?

 

Then let us return to the wisdom of the great John Ciardi, and his astute 20th Century observation:

Yes, happiness is found in the pursuit of becoming

 

May your life-time in the coming year reflect your becoming a person who has created your own work and path in life, putting to use your talents and gifts in service of our world, doing the work you are here to do . . . even as you work to create it today!

 

May this be your commitment to yourself, and to all those around you, cheering you on.  Including me!

 

Here is the rest of the quote, from John Ciardi’s delightful essay “What is happiness?” from oh so long ago, and still so accurate.

 

Happiness is never more than partial. There are no pure states of mankind.  Whatever else happiness may be, it is neither in having nor in being, but in becoming. What the Founding Fathers declared for us as an inherent right, we should do well to remember, was not happiness but the pursuit of happiness. What they might have underlined, could they have foreseen the happiness-market, is the cardinal fact that happiness is in the pursuit itself, in the meaningful pursuit of what is life-engaging and life-revealing, which is to say, in the idea of becoming. . . .

 

 Blessings on your day!

 

Elizabeth Darby

 

 

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Joy is the Essence of Success

Joy is the essence of  Success…

My teabag tag on this cold winter’s night.

Don’t you love gifts like this?  It is a winter’s night when the snow has melted slightly and turned to black ice, the moon grows full, and it is a deep cold. The frosted air and all its various contributions — the musky fox who darted through the yard a bit ago, car exhaust, someone’s passing cigarette smoke, the dog who has recently over eaten, and now a sweetly scented cup of spicy tea — clings close to the ground to join into a soupy, heady moment in which to be aware of life passing by.

And yet, this is just it . . . and thus the gift of a moment in time no matter the moment:

When one feels a success, one feels joyful.

When one is joyful, one is a success.

 

Yes, it’s that simple.

 

When do you feel joy?

 

When do you feel a success?

 

Wouldn’t it be nice to remember to feel either or both of these during many moments of each day or on a cold, winter’s night?

For feeling each or both is, in fact, a moment’s choice.

Choose it now and take a deep breath! If in this moment, you are able to connect to heartfelt joy, you are a success. And, if in this moment, you choose to feel a success — you are here doing good work, after all, right? Being your shining best in this moment? — then you feel joyful.

Round and round it goes, success to joy to success to joy…

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about success lately. It seems there are so many recipes to achieve it and so many encouragements in the world to define and attain it. There was even an entire TED radio hour on it on a recent NPR show (good to listen to! Here’s the link: http://www.npr.org/2013/10/25/240777690/success ).

 

When I first heard this show several weeks ago, I scribbled notes immediately as I took issue with so much of what was discussed, for it seemed there was something missing from many of the definitions of success explored in that assembly of speakers.

And what I felt was missing was simply this:

Heart.  Shine,  Soul.

A sense of Being You, On Task and On Purpose.

A sense of being here to do specifically what you are here to do . . . And doing that.

Call it living one’s shine and using one’s gifts for this world.

Although we try to measure success in so many outward ways, as the Ted Radio Hour on NPR explored, the real measure of success is exactly what my teabag reminds me tonight:

Joy.

 

And that, simply, is what I hope any of you feel after working through my book or in working with me one-on-one.

Joy and Success: You are being You at your best and deepest heart-level.

I thank you, at the end of this year in this season of returning light and cold nights, for your joy, for your heartfelt connection in reading my thoughts, here or in my book, or even just for smiling after looking at my work here. Your many likes, nice comments and follows make me feel joyful and have helped to make Here You Begin, a tiny book of good intentions in a sea of self-help gurus, what I feel to be a success.

And so I thank you again!

If I were to define success, for any one of us, you know it would be this:

To feel that you are here, shining, doing your work, on purpose and on task, using your unique combo of talents and heart for this world and in this world.

And that makes everyone around us — as well as you and me— full of joy.

Thank you for daring to shine in whatever moment is before you in your life in this moment, right now.

Blessings!

Elizabeth Darby

Choosing.

Choosing.

This is a word much used and very misunderstood.

 And this word above is in a tense that implies ‘going to’, isn’t it?

 As in, ‘I’m choosing to . . . ‘.  Really? When. Have you chosen yet?

 Although it sounds like “I’m choosing [now] to…” followed bywhatever action is being undertaken (see below for a test), it’s actually saying and feeling, ‘I’m going to choose for the future this . . . _______’.

 That’s just it. “I’m choosing to __________” includes the feeling that you/I/we don’t already possess what it yearned for in our heart of hearts, whether great work, great recompense, great health, great family, great whatever.

 Try it: Insert your most simultaneously feared and yearned-for word of this moment to test this:

 I’m choosing to________

I’m choosing to live fully…

I’m choosing to ‘be happy’ …

I’m choosing to leave this closet of dread . . .

I’m choosing to attract _________ whatever it is you feel you don’t have…because clearly you don’t. You’re still choosing it.

 

Now try it in the active form:

 I choose . . .

There’s a sense of immediacy about this.

 It serves to pop the energetic bubble of despair and let the fresh air in.

 It serves to make now (as it is above, so it is below) joyous, abundant, life-filling happiness incarnate. Try it:

 I choose happiness. 

(Now! Pop! There it is!).

 

I choose joy in life and living fully

(oops, it’s already underway by the time you’ve added “and living…”).

 

I choose ____________ ; by the time you’ve said ‘leaving this closet of despair, you’ve already left.

 

I choose ___________  [to attract ] — again, no time to “attract” but rather to experience it as it’s here and now, as in:

I choose abundance;

I choose great work;

I choose health . . .

And the important thing is it ‘feels’ as if it’s already here.

Because it is:  As it is Above, So it is Below: Joyous; Spirit; Loving; Abundant; Light-filled. Choose it — oh, here it is!

 

‘I choose’ is a prayer of now.

 

‘I’m choosing’ is a ‘gonna. It’s a category into which we pour our future hoped-for experiences.

 

‘I choose’ is a dare to self to live, now.  Try it:

I choose love.

I choose you.

I choose abundance.

I choose this company/work/hours/exchange of life-for-security (seeming).

I choose this person to be my beloved.

I choose health.

I choose joy.

I choose life.

 

And, of course, that’s all any of us can do: choose moment by moment.

‘I’m choosing to . . .” seems to put a Life of living off for just a moment for an added clause ‘to be/do/soon’ an infinitive of infinite time forthcoming. It feels like fingers crossed behind the back and the teeniest bit of doubt in one’s heart. “I’m choosing to (at some uncertain time) to . . . , really, I am!”

 

It’s amazing what 3 little letters can do to drag out despair in a moment and leave us hijacked by our ‘intent’ — ‘I’m choosing to . . .’  is kind of like “warming up the tele’ “for those who remember sitting around waiting for the TV picture tube to ‘warm up’ into the picture we waited (and waited and wanted) to see.

 

There’s a lot in the world about choosing and choice, so forgive me if any of this is a repeat of others. I’ve found, however, that we each mix up the two phrases very often, especially when reaching for a feeling of ‘things are going to get better,’ we often reach for the ‘best thought we can,’ and that thought tends to push things into the future, rather than right now.

I am choosing, or, I choose. Now.

‘I choose’ also gets around the feeling that there’s a distance between what is reality now and what you hope for: even when there’s little abundance in sight, affirming “I choose abundance” pops the yearning and despair and gives instant “yes, I do” inside.  “I am choosing abundance” just has a ‘to come someday’ added on to the back of the feeling. What is in back of the feeling is what is real to you, now, in this moment. So choose. Now and wholly in the only moment you control. Now.

 

So, try it. From my workshops and consults, I find that starting here:

 

I choose  ______________ (top five items for Now)

1)_________________

2) _________________

3) _________________

4) ________________

5) ________________

 

… pops the energetic bubble of despair and brings happiness, joy, abundance and, perhaps most importantly, the clarity of “Yes, I choose __________ ” to your Life-time. Playing Right Now.

 

Blessings on your choices today,

Elizabeth Darby

 

 

Be Totally Honest With Yourself . . .

“Be totally honest with yourself: What makes you happy — do that.

And be prepared for it to take a little bit of time. . . .

  . . . Get a good foundation, learn all you can …

I became an expert in me when I started out in life, and I had seven potential journeys

in front of me to choose from that I mapped out on a spreadsheet.  

I thought I was motivated by doing a good job for others.

But after a few months of trying this, I realized I was motivated by being happy,

and that I’m happy when I’m doing a good job, and bringing happiness to others.

People would look at me and say, ‘Look at all the money you made . . .’.

They didn’t know about all the deals that didn’t happen…. 

When I started out, after looking at all the options, I burned the ships, like the explorers did —

I said this was it, and I was going to make this work.

And I was very lucky. . . .”

The man speaking is older, gray in the hair that is left, spending a bit of his Life-Time in a cafe to mentor a 30-something in her decision whether to use her time, skills and talent at … Real Estate.

Maybe it’s not a likely first-idea of a perfectly “spiritual” career, and the question wasn’t whether Real Estate was the reason she or even he is on this earth, spending Life-Time On Task and On Purpose. He could have been offering his wisdom on any journey she asked about, for obviously his advice is about how to live life, not necessarily what to do with it.  Especially when he returned to advising her to, above all else, be happy in her living and in her choice of how to spend her Life-Time.

His advice is sage and learned in the day-to-day moments of his Life-time here. As he walks out in what appear to be simple khakis, simple white shirt and Orvis straw hat, and then doffing a beautiful sport jacket in a cut of cloth that emanates quality and worth, he reminds her to get her ticket validated to save the parking fee… as she’s ‘a nice person, after all’ so why waste a dime?

This is what it’s all about, isn’t it?

Choosing to work at stirring happiness into a job well-done, rather than focus on just the ‘results’. Choosing to learn about You, to seek to know what is the best of you and to apply it to your journey(s) ahead. To choose whatever role to play that makes you happy and tugs at you to do your best each moment.

In a multiple role life, as we each live every moment of life, this is the Way, I feel. We must get out of our own way to let a bright light shine fully from within, as we each —yes even you — are here to do. Whether the role of this moment in your life is care-giver, seeker, provider, creator, assistant, hand-holder, or ace deal-maker or lonely-in-the-night guardian, it’s your journey using your Life-Time.

So, as the wise man says:

Be totally honest with yourself  . . .  

 

What makes you happy — do that.

 

 And be prepared for it to take a little bit of time.

Here You Begin: On Task and On Purpose. Right . . . Now.

And Right . . . Now. . . . 

And Right . . . Now.

It’s always a Begin Here moment in which to shine. And it’s going to take a little time for that shine to become a natural habit.

But when it does, oh my is it beautiful and successful. 

For who can resist someone who is happy in what they do with their time, every moment?

Blessings on your day!

Elizabeth Darby

GPS for Gratitude

Have you ever done this?

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It’s a kind of simple game I have played since I was a little girl looking around a long-grassed mountain side for what to do or where to go next.  It’s a kind of GPS system for the soul.

The rules are simple: There’s just one.

Assume whatever you notice is really important, a clue left just for you, and that it is guidance for your ‘next step’ in the puzzle of your life-journey of Being You.

As you notice it, feel immense gratitude for the clue, the guidance, the direction, the encouragement, whatever it is. Like GPS, this thing you notice has found you and you have found it. It guides you and you feel, well, thankful, that you are directed right here and now into being On Task and On Purpose in this moment. …That’s it.

This little game can be ‘played’ anywhere . . . and even while waiting for planes four hours overdue in JFK when people-watching feels no longer the best reality TV around, as I found last week coming home from the UK. 

I’ve found physical clues are easier found in Nature than in confined spaces, though I”m always grateful for a discovery of a cafe offering great, giant cups of tea even in urban corridors. Thus, I learned when leaving my native nature spaces here in the Rocky Mountain West for the rest of the world, I could play this game with books and bookstores. The one rule remains. I look for a title that jumps out at me, saying ‘here I am; the answer and insight is here’ or I open one, two or three books at random that I’m carrying with me and see what is said and contemplate where the intersect. For, remember, three points define a line — of action, of direction, to next, to beyond, to using your gifts or a lifeline in a dark time.

(Warning: Don’t try this with newspapers or shallow magazines; the results can be profoundly disturbing!)

So, playing it today while avoiding 100 degree heat outside, I thought I’d share whatever GPS was offered. No, you and I don’t have the same puzzles of life-journey around us, but guidance can fit each of us in just the right place, if received with gratitude.  So here goes:

First, determine that whatever is relayed here is just the hint or guidance you might need right now; yes, it’s for you. Then simply feel a huge wave of thanks as you consider it.

And, No, this isn’t fortune cookie stuff for the more cynical or hurting among you thinking ‘um, right…’ at this moment (I know you’re there). This is a game of opening to GPS is a light-play for the magic that is for your very next step.

Here’s what I ‘opened’ to — and no doubt is for each of us in each of our journeys; see where the 3 ideas take you and connect for you:

We must awaken to the truth that essentially this world order in which we live is a spiritual order; that honesty, justice and love are the very foundations of all life, and they cannot be flaunted with impunity, for they are the moral and spiritual principles that underlie all human relationships…

Ernest Holmes, It’s Up to You

 

What does your fearsome Bogey look like? What’s the worst that could go wrong? Write it and draw it here. We all have doubts. We doubt our Selves, our abilities, our worthiness to actually create our work and feel joy, and we each have our unique pictures of what could go wrong. But once the doubts are out in front of us, we can take a good look at them in the light and assess how realistic each truly might be. . . .

me, from my book Here You Begin which is based on

 countless nights of talking with my daughters as they reached for their lives and dreams

 

Somewhere, deep inside of each of us, is the knowing which knows us, that mystery which seeks us, desires realization through us. What a defilement of our calling it is to live the lesser life. We may be frightened by the scope of such calling but it is even more frightening to have stayed stuck in a life of no consequence, of no contribution. Fear of the call is a good fear, for it reduces the other fears to their lesser claim on us. . . .

James Hollis, Creating a Life

Wow. Thank you, GPS!

When wondering what to do next to pursue the Call of my time here, it’s an instant reminder:

Walk in honesty, justice and love;

 

Regard the self-doubts and fears as needing

a ‘reality’ check

and maybe a little a cartoon-rendering;

 

Remember that there is something greater

pulling through you wanting expression:

It’s the reason you are here in your Life-Time

using your gifts, and shining your light from within You around.

 

What guidance is connected here for you? Did your GPS find you?

 

Helping hands always offered here, with gratitude.

Give Life a dizzying whirl today!

Blessings,

Elizabeth Darby

 

 

 

On Being . . . Perfect

In preparing for a next workshop, a friend “in the biz” of helping others noted all the courses she takes continuously and has for a decade or so. Every day in her work she helps others rid themselves of blocks in energy and the ill-health caused by the holdings we all carry. She is ever present, ever helpful and nurturing. Indeed, she is ever on purpose, being her best self with her clients, so insightful and supportive, clearly living the reason for her being here — and yet, in her alone times, her conversation reveals, she is ever searching for being ‘better’ at the courses she attends … but ‘better’ at what I don’t know, for she is perfect in the expression of who she is, right at this very moment.

It really struck me how much we seek being perfect — whether in body, mind, shape, or soul — rather than seek being, well, ourselves in all our naked beauty.

Of course that beauty includes the scars, the bulges, perhaps even the ugly toes or toenails. It includes the moments of Fear and soul-searching, and wanting to be ‘enough’ and each of these come day after day, shadow and light, shadow and light, as we live our days. Because the beauty and the perfection is shining out from within of course. I’ve long told my daughters the most beautiful diamonds on earth are those that are ‘near’ perfect —not totally perfect —and carry the small flaws within for that is how they sparkle and give off the fire from within. I don’t know that it’s true, but it helps to dry a lot of ‘not enough’ tears and thus it is a truth any of us can live:

We must shine with and despite our flaws, believing they, too, can capture our internal fire and reflect the light passing through us.

A hundred plus a little years ago, here in the West where I live, my grandmother’s family struggled to get enough water for each day’s ‘being’.  There were moral conquests as we struggle with, of course, but they entailed following God’s footsteps, not Being Perfect as God.The Work of getting the daily basics — water, food grown with it, roof strong enough for summer tornadoes and winter winds — was honorable and worthy work of Being and with grace and shine they met the day. Gratitude for the smallest boon, such as an icicle hanging on the roof just out the door so breaking the water in the well unnecessary for another day in January, or a pot full of hail in May to ease the loss of another gallon of water that had to be fetched from the creek a mile away and by foot, filled the house with grace and joy and a moment of Being feeling successful, content and purpose-filled.

As our society here today enjoys luxuries unimaginable to my grandmother’s family (and to much of the world today) it seems we’ve focused our moral attention and struggles on that which we feel we do not have, and thus we might too often seek being Perfect rather than simply Being and greatly Shining with gratitude and on purpose.

A sense of ‘enough’ — and being enough — is what’s missing, no?

 

So as you consider today’s ‘being’ and what ‘being enough’ might include,

do take ‘being perfect’ out of the equation.

As I say in my journal guide …

You are not perfect at anything . . . except at being you.

You are perfectly made for the life and work you are here to do in your Life-time.

You are perfectly able to create — in fact you must — your own Work.

 

As you consider what your Work might be, here’s a question to ponder from my Work:

 

See a child standing before you. See many!

Look at each face carefully and note for a moment

how beautiful each is.

What one thing does this and every child you see need?

_____________________________________

How can you give it to one of them? Two of them?

Each and all?

_____________________________________

That which you wish to give every other child might be just the thing you yourself need or needed as a child,

whether a hug, a sense of enough, a moment of freedom from life-sustaining chores, or being seen,

or the feeling that comes with feeling

worth the care someone else offers,

like you giving to that child you hold in your vision.

Take a moment and see you giving it to yourself as a child.

Now plan and plot how you can give that to the child

you see standing before you,

whether in your vision or in your reality!

May the rest of your day be joyous in your Being You, shining forth your best and most certainly without being perfect!

Here you Begin!

Blessings,

Elizabeth Darby

 

May I help you?

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How can I be of service to you today, in this moment?

Could I hold your worries,

even if just for a few moments,

while you catch your breath on this long hillside of life?

Here, I’m listening. I’ll help you unload them now, like an over-heavy pack.

Let’s enjoy the view and light of the day for a moment before you start again on your journey…

Could I encourage you

that it will soon (very soon)

be easier than it is now?

 It will be.

Try giving a little smile now, just a little one, and see if that helps lighten …

Could I remind you

that you are here for a purpose

and have very specific and great work to do?

Really, exactly who you are is what is needed . . .

to do the beautiful work of your time here.

How can I be of service to you in this moment?

For being of service, on task and on purpose, is what we are each here to be. . .

How may I help you?

Blessings,

Elizabeth Darby

Step by step

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“You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do.”

Charles F. Haanel, 1919

What better way to know your power than to feel you are here for a purpose; it is one only you can do well, given your specific talents, abilities, and the spark of care that you feel for that which moves you?

What is it you care about so much you feel

it to be impossible not to move toward it,

with care for it overflowing in every step?

_____________________________

_____________________________

What better way to have courage to dare than to act without thought of self in service of that which moves you, and using some or all of abilities you feel you do well — and the world smiles back in return?

What do you do, and do so well the world smiles at you

when you are in the midst of it?

___________________________

___________________________

And the faith to do . . . ah, there’s the task.

Faith is making the plan, starting at the point where what you dream as your life and life-work is still only a vision, lovely and glowing, and moving backwards to where you sit today, making the plan.

Faith is seeing something that doesn’t necessarily appear to others, but which you see and feel clearly.

Faith is knowing something exists when you don’t tangibly see it. Faith is the vase with water in it, neither half full nor half empty, but rather overflowing. For it is filled with water to the level you see it, and it is filled with air that you can’t see overflowing out of it and enveloping you and all that is in this beautiful world.

Faith to do is taking little step by little step from where you are today to the vision you see in your imagination and taking action in faith you have all the air and water you need now and en route.

So take a little a step today and see where you are! What a beautiful day!

Blessings on your little step today…

Elizabeth Darby

To Shine and To Prosper

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I found myself stressed on 6 fronts this past two weeks, each needing focus, belief, courage and breath to start again. Today. Now. Anew. So I wrote them all out on paper to get them out of my swirling mind. I handed them off to God and thus gained some breathing space.

As I added up all I needed with all I have been given, very long term of course, I found that it balances out to within a few cents over a lifetime.

Which got me to thinking about that Bible parable which makes me unsettles me so —  the 3 talents one—  as I tend to identify with the guy who buried his talent, his measure of money in those days, so as to make sure he can give it back. Like him, I don’t want to not do right thing or lose money, etc., and yet it is he who is ‘put to death’ for not prospering with what is given by God.

The ‘truth’ of it is in the ‘prosper’ part, of course. And that entails more than a balance sheet apparently; it entails how each of us defines a self-image of what need and abundance (even the ‘if only’ dreams) looks like reflected in the mirror. Right there, in your and my face, is the image: Are we just getting by on all needs? Are you reflecting “if only” dreams or the great gifts given and shining them out? Am I reflecting the yearning of what I need — and the feeling of the need already met in this moment — or am I reflecting the feeling of hiding the need and the desire and the talent … well, you see what I mean.

There’s lots of energy there, wanting to not need much, needing to do right thing, yearning to give back what given, to live in balance, to live in abundance not in deficit and to not lose what is given — wanting to do this life thing right while being aware that what is reflected back to us is what we are living inside… lots of energy there.

But we are instructed by such Story that we are here to do three simple things:

To Light and to Prosper and to Love. . .

and not necessarily in that order.

And there is the discomfort.

Is the picture of your life or mine a reflection shining any of those — the gifts, the talents, the yearning desire, the need — as demonstrating more than ‘just getting by’? Of making do by a whisker or a life of just making it and accommodating what looks like ‘reality’ or ‘ability’ or ‘situation’… rather than shining and prospering with what we are each given?

I feel such a picture of just getting by is a mirror of giving personal power away and not taking any of gifts given already in hand as tools or expressions of shine or of love.

I asked this question of Soulful Self and of God: “How do I expand my sense of incarnated self so that I can shine and prosper all I’ve been so graciously given — and what would that feel like? As clearly, we are given over a lifetime what we feel we need, rather than given a lifetime of needs as so many millions of us experience.

I think that’s where that ‘living like you already have all you need’ comes from — and there is a magic in it — as the parable teaches we already have all we need; it’s what we do with it that is our Task and our Purpose.

What would it feel like for you? Living, taking actions daily to shine and to prosper what you’ve been given inside, rather than focusing on the outer number of just getting by or living in need? What does abundance feel like after all? Is there a magic number by which you define yourself, or is it an experience?

I asked a dear daughter, as I was still feeling ‘careful’ trying to figure out this uncomfortable balance sheet of life. She said simply:

I feel abundant when I’m living with abandon . . .

you know like you just ‘do it big’ and it’s huge and wonderful and…

By now, she was sweeping arms now and I remembered the feeling from years of dance training —  of living, breathing, moving with abandon, rather than clutching the movement which looks terrible of course and feels terrible, too.

Living with abandon: 

It’s the feeling of being at the top of a mountain;

The feeling of leaping into the air and hanging there for a moment

suspended as art meets light;

The feeling of whooshing on a swing with long ropes;

The feeling of galloping fast on a horse;

The feeling of the waves splashing around running legs…

 

What’s your feeling of living with abandon? For in it is found your living in Love with life and source, to Shine and to Prosper,

So I looked up the etymology of abandon:

á banon. To + power/authority.

From Old English and Old French. Or as Eric Partridge writes in his fabulous book Origins:

“a sovereign’s proclamation within his/her jurisdiction…”

Oh, dear God! That’s right! Living with abandon, living to shine and to prosper, is living proclaiming sovereignty within the jurisdiction of one’s life while on Earth.

And that means, since you are a sovereign over your actions while here on Earth, it’s a given you have power, authority, treasury at the foundation of your life, as that’s what a sovereign has as a given

So what will you do today, to shine, to prosper all you have as a Given, and while Living with Abandon?

Blessings ,

Elizabeth Darby